Becoming Nicole - Amy Ellis Nutt

Becoming Nicole

By Amy Ellis Nutt

  • Release Date: 2015-10-20
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Score: 4.5
From 47 Ratings


NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The inspiring true story of a transgender girl, her identical twin brother, and an ordinary American family’s extraordinary journey to understand, nurture, and celebrate the uniqueness in us all, from the Pulitzer Prize-winning science reporter for The Washington Post

Named One of the Ten Best Books of the Year by People  One of the Best Books of the Year by The New York Times Book Review and Men’s Journal • A Stonewall Honor Book in Nonfiction • Finalist for the Lambda Literary Award for Transgender Nonfiction

When Wayne and Kelly Maines adopted identical twin boys, they thought their lives were complete. But it wasn’t long before they noticed a marked difference between Jonas and his brother, Wyatt. Jonas preferred sports and trucks and many of the things little boys were “supposed” to like; but Wyatt liked princess dolls and dress-up and playing Little Mermaid. By the time the twins were toddlers, confusion over Wyatt’s insistence that he was female began to tear the family apart. In the years that followed, the Maineses came to question their long-held views on gender and identity, to accept and embrace Wyatt’s transition to Nicole, and to undergo an emotionally wrenching transformation of their own that would change all their lives forever.

Becoming Nicole chronicles a journey that could have destroyed a family but instead brought it closer together. It’s the story of a mother whose instincts told her that her child needed love and acceptance, not ostracism and disapproval; of a Republican, Air Force veteran father who overcame his deepest fears to become a vocal advocate for trans rights; of a loving brother who bravely stuck up for his twin sister; and of a town forced to confront its prejudices, a school compelled to rewrite its rules, and a courageous community of transgender activists determined to make their voices heard. Ultimately, Becoming Nicole is the story of an extraordinary girl who fought for the right to be herself.

Granted wide-ranging access to personal diaries, home videos, clinical journals, legal documents, medical records, and the Maineses themselves, Amy Ellis Nutt spent almost four years reporting this immersive account of an American family confronting an issue that is at the center of today’s cultural debate. Becoming Nicole will resonate with anyone who’s ever raised a child, felt at odds with society’s conventions and norms, or had to embrace life when it plays out unexpectedly. It’s a story of standing up for your beliefs and yourself—and it will inspire all of us to do the same.


  • Disgusting

    By Xxlemonzdisxxx
    Would do 0 stars but whata gonna do with the LGBT brainwashing
  • Stellar

    By AJ AAA
    This is one of the best books I have ever read. Even as a cisgender person, this book is an inspiring, beautiful story that encourages me to be myself regardless of the opinions of others. A must-read.
  • An uneducated teacher trying to inform the wrong lessons

    By monkeybob
    I feel like this book is trying to educate people of transgender topics and stay along a storyline of a child's experience at the same time, but I don't think the two goals mix together well. First of all, this book is full of facts straight out of Wikipedia- if I wanted textbook definitions of transsexuals, I'd use google. Secondly, the author constantly switches pronouns and uses wrong terminology. For example, they will use male pronouns when describing a female transgender individual and switch back to female pronouns all in the same sentence. It's almost as if the author is confused about the subject even though they're trying to educate others. This book is confused on what it wants to achieve and it shows. I just hope people don't consider it a good source of information.